Sunday, September 7, 2008

Alturistic why?

 

God’s work must truly be our own- John F. Kennedy


God has no other hands but ours to use. It’s up to us to ease the suffering and chaos that we see in the world. A Sufi teaching story goes, a spiritual seeker prayed outdoors daily. As he prayed, he noticed a constant stream of beggars, crippled people in mind body and spirit pass him constantly. He looked at the mass of human suffering and lifted his voice to God and cried, “Great God, how is it that a loving creator can see such things and do nothing about it?” After a long silence, the voice of God said, “I did do something, I made you.”

We often feel we don’t have the time nor energy to give more after a long day at the office, waiting tables or loading trucks. Whatever one does to put food on the table, it is taxing on us physically and mentally. How can anyone do even just one more thing in the day to add to an already busy schedule? Seems daunting and impossible, yet we all know people who do that very thing on a weekly, monthly and even on a daily basis. It seems that they have something extra that the rest of us lack. We have the good intention perhaps, of doing a little extra civic duty for the community. We all know how helping others helps ourselves, giving during one’s time of need often gives much more in return when we need it most. That is the key when we feel directed to do such things, God takes our hand and shows us the way, just when we need it the most.

Who are these special people in our society, the givers of the world? Doesn’t it seem we see the same names over and over on different rosters around the community, they belong to the Rotary, the Kiwanis and then you see their names on the United Way fundraiser event or the Band Boosters fundraising event. How is it just a few people do so much for t he community? They do as much in a month than the non-volunteers amongst the rest of us do in a year, or even in a lifetime.

Do they have a special extra dose of the altruistic gene? They seem so far apart from us that we feel we can’t even begin to believe we can be like them. So far removed from our lives of every day existence that we can’t imagine serving soup to the homeless at Thanksgiving It is easier to understand why people help people who can’t help themselves, maybe children in a hospital or someone with a profound illness. So then there’s the puzzle of how and why some people volunteer at a women’s shelter or a halfway house, even in the face of the reality of humanity brutalizing one another at such places.

These are very special people who hold our society together, they keep the t he bursting seams of a chaotic system intact when it appears all else is useless. These selfless souls are there to make sure all is well and life continues for those who lost everything during a hurricane, flood or fire. So many disasters have occurred lately that we’ve taken it for granted that the Red Cross volunteers will be there, or the United Way folks will have what we need. Some folks do have a career in helping professions; others do this in addition to their paying jobs. There really is no difference between paid and unpaid altruism, it’s the same process that draws a person to helping others. This is the direct hand of God when one is touched by the services of an Altruistic person.   

Friday, August 22, 2008

Labeling

Not the kind that pop out of the handy label maker to put on files and cabinets. I’m talking about the kind that we use on people to pigeon-hole each other and ourselves.
One interesting thing I read recently about relationships with people in general is to "drop your story" and how it will free you from how you see yourself and how you want others to see you. Just be who you are by showing the world who are and not by not explaining it. It will also allow a person to grow beyond that particular story. I have a friend who tells his story every time we have serious discussion about any subject really. He was a nerd, got beat up by the jocks daily walking to school. He had a growth spurt and then he beat up the jocks and was totally misunderstood. I can recite his story for him if he ever forgot it. I have stopped myself a few times from saying, "I've heard this a few times already, I do pay attention sometimes." I decided to let him tell me his story when he needs to.
He's told me that he has no introspective part of himself. If he thought too hard about things then he might get depressed, so he doesn’t think too much about things. But, that's the point of dropping your story. It allows you move beyond your chosen role and identity. If you don’t think about anything again and use the same story for years, then you don’t have to go forward. I think personality is fluid and dynamic and you aren't the same person you were at age 6, 16, 26 or 36. I look at my 20 year old self and don't recognize that person. Both ways you can stop thinking about one’s self though. The lack of a “story” keeps us moving ahead, though.

Then who are you after you've dropped your story? Does that mean you have a new story to drop? No, I think ideally I wouldn't have a story to drop at all.
The interesting thing I am seeing about having a new teen is that she is starting with her story. She likes to describe herself, as do many kids her age. They are going through the labeling of themselves and people. I am a Goth, I am a prep I am a jock. I am starting to talk to her about labels and how useless they are for people. I hope I can get that point across. So many adults still use those labels they put on themselves and others like they did back when they were 13. I’d like to see if that is a factor in a person’s development of their personality; not labeling others and one’s self. I’m pretty sure it has to do one’s happiness quotient over all. The question though is can we ever stop the compulsion?

Thursday, August 21, 2008

Positive Project

I come to work everyday, sit down turn on my computer. I've been doing that now for years. What I’m seeing is that millions of Americans, probably millions of people from other nations as well are doing the same thing. We settle into our days with the same routines. We have our cuppa of our hotness of choice, perhaps something to eat and we check our email, maybe our RSS feeds, read our favorite blogs, maybe some news then start the day. I know many don't have time for that. Many spend their whole days doing that.

The reason I decided to make more of an effort on my website/blog site is to mirrors what I’m thinking we all are losing when we are immersed in the negative of your local news, or the daily grind of the national news media. The only criterion will be to try to post positive items. It can be anything under the sun. the best way to prepare a pot of tea, the best place to take your sweetie on a get away weekend, the positive news in the world, it would be a collection of links, pictures and posts. I already have that set up for myself really. My yahoo mail does it all for me with my RSS feeds. But really I'd like to share it with people to put a more positive spin on our outlook. There’s a book already out there called the Happiness Project.

But I’m thinking of something along the lines of that feeling the Happiness Project gives. It’s a mission to get over this recession filled era of war, gloom and doom, and end of the world feeling that people are having. I’ve seen many places where it comes up over and over, how 2012 is the year the Mayans predicted the end of the world and many people believe it. Why are we having the end of the world syndrome again, as people do every so often? Is it still millennium madness like for Y2K? I figure it doesn't matter either way; if it happens there’s not much we can do about it. All we can do is make what we have here better.

Tuesday, July 22, 2008

Randy makes the best Salsa!

Hi Anita, This is how I make salsa:6 tomatoes1 sweet onion (Vidalia, Walla Walla, or whatever they have in the expensive onion bin.) 6-12 jalapenos, 4-6 cloves garlic, fresh cilantro (I use about a third of the bunch, let the rest rot in the fridge, and then throw it away.) Garlic salt, Juice from about half of a lime, Beer.
Open a beer first and taste it but don't put any in the salsa. With a freshly sharpened knife, cut the rest of the ingredients into the tiniest pieces that your patience will allow. Sometimes I add a teensy bit of V8 juice or pureed canned tomato, but I like it just as well without. That's all.
Have fun, Randy

How To become an expert.

I had a teacher who taught me this. and I forgot all about it. You can't do something effortlessly (or appear to be effortless) until you've spent hours even years becoming familiar with the ins and outs of every aspect of music. It was really hard work, and even if music came easy to a person, hard work was still involved because of the dedication to becoming better or more knowledgeable. People who have a knack for something tend to give up when it gets hard, and it does get hard at some point. People go through life thinking that other people are more talented and more gifted than they are and they shouldn't do something because it isn't easy for them like other people. When really hard work was what everyone put in, even if they didn't think it was hard work, practicing a lot is time spent. I remember practicing for hours and the hours didn't seem to be all that long because I didn't notice the practice as being hard. It was fun for me. Others may think it was effortless, but it was hard work in retrospect thinking of all the injury to my shoulders and neck. :-)


wrote about it on her blog esoup. The article is:
How To become an expert at something you know nothing about.

Give up goals!

I read something about Goals, don't have goals (yay, I hate goals), just pursue 3 things you can do within a defined time frame, those things can be goals too, but they don't have to be I'm going to be a wealthy person type goal. Just something you can get done within a focused time frame. i.e. do what it takes to be with the person you love who lives in another state.
I like this idea.

Things that make you happy

I'm sure you all have heard of this but it's http://www.43things.com/. It is for people who love to make lists! I used to love list making. Then i would be down on myself for not doing the things on the list. I do lists at work. that's all. I do like one of the lists I saw there that I am going to start and thought we could do it as a group or create a list ourselves. Identify 100 things that make me happy.

I loved reading some of the entries people made, some were like little bits of found poetry.

the first things i can think of that make me happy at this very moment in my life are:
1. my daughter
2. a cup of tea
3. a good book
4. a good night's sleep
5. feeling/being healthy (have a chest cold now for a week, but my tooth ache went away)
6.new shoes
7. a blank notebook
8. pretty note cards
9. Beautiful Art work.
10. finishing work on my desk.

Maybe this is another version of listing what one is grateful for.. the oprah thing??

My 100 things list

I've only gotten to #46


Fall madly in love
learn French
Go to Burning Man
Go to-France & go on a river cruise on the Seine.
Ireland
England- stonehenge specifically
Greece
Italy-Venice Carnival
India
Tibet Nepal
Learn to fence-done
Learn to do yoga-done
learn to Irish dance
Hike all the local trails-done
Go to a synagogue service
Visit Auschwitz
Learn how to do pottery on a wheel
Learn to paint-done
Play in folk music group
Learn calligraphy-done
Learn to drum
Learn to play cello
Chinese painting
Psanky eggs
make jewelry-done
collect beads-done
learn to make mosaics
learn how to tile
be a career counselor
teach spirituality
write a book
write a collection of folk tales/ghost stories local
learn to do balloon sculptures/
DJ a wedding
stay at a lakehouse
go to 10,000 waves
learn to be an excellent cook
learn to do portraits
have leia's portrait done professionally
make a short film/documentary
visit a haunted house/haunted tour
study the human condition-

Things to do before

you go on to the next adventure.

http://www.2dobeforeidie.com/

Irena's Story

She saved thousands of children from death by the nazis

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OVw1PANUcdg

From Wafur on being gratful.

I met an elderly person who lived alone and had many physical problems and financial challenges, yet he was highly upbeat and happy. I wondered how he was able to experience such positive emotions despite the difficulties he faced. I asked him about his life experiences and the most important lessons he had learned about life that I could share with others.
A key point that he shared with me was, "When something goes well for you, be grateful for it for the rest of your life. I had a happy childhood. My childhood was happy no matter what else happened to me later on. For my entire life I can be grateful for the many things I enjoyed when I was growing up. I can be grateful for all the positive memories my late wife gave me. I can be grateful for the good things that people did for me throughout my life. Some of the people I am grateful towards are no longer alive. But my feelings of gratitude towards them remain."
"But isn't it difficult to keep on feeling grateful for what is no longer here?" I asked him.
"No. Once this becomes your habitual way of thinking, it's automatic. It's not hard at all. I've met people who are angry and resentful towards people who are no longer alive. It makes a lot more sense to keep up the positive quality of being grateful."

Tuesday, May 13, 2008

from WikiHow http://www.wikihow.com/Forgive

How to Forgive

One of the hardest, thorniest and most difficult things we humans are ever called upon to do is to respond to evil with kindness, and to forgive the unforgivable. We love to read stories about people who've responded to hatred with love, but when that very thing is demanded of us personally, our default seems to be anger, angst, depression, righteousness, hatred, etc. Yet study after study shows that one of the keys to longevity and good health is to develop a habit of gratitude and let go of past hurts.Want to live a long, happy life? Forgive the unforgivable. It really is the kindest thing you can do for yourself. Your enemy may not deserve to be forgiven for all the pain and sadness and suffering they've purposefully inflicted on your life, but you deserve to be free of this evil. As Ann Landers often said, "hate is like an acid. It destroys the vessel in which it is stored."


Realize that the hate you feel toward your enemy does not harm them in the slightest. Chances are, they've gone on with their life and haven't given you another thought.

more....
http://www.wikihow.com/Forgive

Opps

Time got away from me and I haven't posted any positive ideas in a couple months. I was hoping to add something positive to this list on a daily basis and whoosh it all flew by me. That's how negativity can so easily take over a person's life if one doesn't watch it. Thus the power of a positive blog site.

Thursday, February 28, 2008

Earth


This spectacular “blue marble” image is the most detailed true-color image of the entire Earth to date. Using a collection of satellite-based observations, scientists and visualizers stitched together months of observations of the land surface, oceans, sea ice, and clouds into a seamless, true-color mosaic of every square kilometer (.386 square mile) of our planet.

Conquer by Love

Conquer your foe by force, you increase his enmity; conquer by love, and you will reap no after-sorrow.

-Fo-Sho-Hing-Tsan-King




I was looking at photos of the earth, and yes I realize that most are enhanced digitally so the photos really don't look like that. But still, They touched me. As does any photo of the earth. That blue sphere looks so much like a living thing. Even as small as the earth is in such a vast emptiness, looking at those photos help me realize where my place in the universe is: exactly where I am and that relationships are the #1 priority in life. I always wanted to find what the meaning of life was since i was about 13, it took me till i was in my late 30's to realize that it's all about the people around you. I think we eventually figure this out, it's all about a matter of time of when we do.

Fear is a Thief

"Anxiety comes from fear, and fear is a misuse of the imagination. Fear is a thief that steals us from our present moment and transports us to an imaginary time that may never happen. If we must imagine, let us dream of greatness and of high ideals. Roam freely in the realm of your imagination, and pay attention when pieces of dreams come into fruition. At the most, you are creating your future; and at the least you will be kept busy searching for the best things in life."

NJF

Four Agreements

THE FOUR AGREEMENTS by don Miguel Ruiz

1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don't Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don't Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best

Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

Tuesday, February 26, 2008

UCLA Study On Friendship Among Women

UCLA Study On Friendship Among Women

An alternative to fight or flight


©2002 Gale Berkowitz

A landmark UCLA study suggests friendships between women are special. They shape who we are and who we are yet to be. They soothe our tumultuous inner world, fill the emotional gaps in our marriage, and help us remember who we really are. By the way, they may do even more.
Scientists now suspect that hanging out with our friends can actually counteract the kind of stomach-quivering stress most of us experience on a daily basis. A landmark UCLA study suggests that women respond to stress with a cascade of brain chemicals that cause us to make and maintain friendships with other women. It's a stunning find that has turned five decades of stress research---most of it on men---upside down. Until this study was published, scientists generally believed that when people experience stress, they trigger a hormonal cascade that revs the body to either stand and fight or flee as fast as possible, explains Laura Cousin Klein, Ph.D., now an Assistant Professor of Biobehavioral Health at Penn State University and one of the study's authors. It's an ancient survival mechanism left over from the time we were chased across the planet by saber-toothed tigers.

Now the researchers suspect that women have a larger behavioral repertoire than just fight or flight; In fact, says Dr. Klein, it seems that when the hormone oxytocin is release as part of the stress responses in a woman, it buffers the fight or flight response and encourages her to tend children and gather with other women instead. When she actually engages in this tending or befriending, studies suggest that more oxytocin is released, which further counters stress and produces a calming effect. This calming response does not occur in men, says Dr. Klein, because testosterone---which men produce in high levels when they're under stress---seems to reduce the effects of oxytocin. Estrogen, she adds, seems to enhance it.

The discovery that women respond to stress differently than men was made in a classic "aha" moment shared by two women scientists who were talking one day in a lab at UCLA. There was this joke that when the women who worked in the lab were stressed, they came in, cleaned the lab, had coffee, and bonded, says Dr. Klein. When the men were stressed, they holed up somewhere on their own. I commented one day to fellow researcher Shelley Taylor that nearly 90% of the stress research is on males. I showed her the data from my lab, and the two of us knew instantly that we were onto something.

The women cleared their schedules and started meeting with one scientist after another from various research specialties. Very quickly, Drs. Klein and Taylor discovered that by not including women in stress research, scientists had made a huge mistake: The fact that women respond to stress differently than men has significant implications for our health.

It may take some time for new studies to reveal all the ways that oxytocin encourages us to care for children and hang out with other women, but the "tend and befriend" notion developed by Drs. Klein and Taylor may explain why women consistently outlive men. Study after study has found that social ties reduce our risk of disease by lowering blood pressure, heart rate, and cholesterol. There's no doubt, says Dr. Klein, that friends are helping us live longer.

In one study, for example, researchers found that people who had no friends increased their risk of death over a 6-month period. In another study, those who had the most friends over a 9-year period cut their risk of death by more than 60%.

Friends are also helping us live better. The famed Nurses' Health Study from Harvard Medical School found that the more friends women had, the less likely they were to develop physical impairments as they aged, and the more likely they were to be leading a joyful life. In fact, the results were so significant, the researchers concluded, that not having close friends or confidants was as detrimental to your health as smoking or carrying extra weight.

And that's not all. When the researchers looked at how well the women functioned after the death of their spouse, they found that even in the face of this biggest stressor of all, those women who had a close friend and confidante were more likely to survive the experience without any new physical impairments or permanent loss of vitality. Those without friends were not always so fortunate. Yet if friends counter the stress that seems to swallow up so much of our life these days, if they keep us healthy and even add years to our life, why is it so hard to find time to be with them? That's a question that also troubles researcher Ruthellen Josselson, Ph.D., co-author of Best Friends: The Pleasures and Perils of Girls' and Women's Friendships (Three Rivers Press, 1998). The following paragraph is, in my opinion, very, very true and something all women should be aware of and NOT put our female friends on the back burners.

Every time we get overly busy with work and family, the first thing we do is let go of friendships with other women, explains Dr. Josselson. We push the m right to the back burner. That's really a mistake because women are such a source of strength to each other. We nurture one another. And we need to have unpressured space in which we can do the special kind of talk that women do when they're with other women. It's a very healing experience.

Taylor, S. E., Klein, L.C., Lewis, B. P., Gruenewald, T. L., Gurung, R. A. R., & Updegraff, J. A. Female Responses to Stress: Tend and Befriend, Not Fight or Flight" Psychol Rev, 107(3):41-429.


Geary DC, Flinn MV. Sex differences in behavioral and hormonal response to social threat: commentary on Taylor et al. Psychol Rev 2002 Oct;109(4):745-50; discussion 751-3

Cousino Klein L, Corwin EJ. Seeing the unexpected: how sex differences in stress responses may provide a new perspective on the manifestation of psychiatric disorders. Curr Psychiatry Rep. 2002 Dec;4(6):441-8.

Sunday, February 24, 2008

NPR interviews Eric Wilson Arguing the Upside of Being Down

From NPR News- Allthings Considered


Ken Bennett interviews
Eric G. Wilson, author of Against Happiness, argues for the vital need for sadness in the world. Wake Forest University

All Things Considered, February 11, 2008 · Author Eric G. Wilson has come to realize he was born to the blues, and he has made peace with his melancholy state.

But it took some time, as he writes in his new book, a polemic titled Against Happiness: In Praise of Melancholy.

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=18885211&sc=nl&cc=es-20080224

Thursday, February 21, 2008

Happy=Rich???

Want to Get Rich? Be (Moderately) Happy
by Laura Rowley


Posted on Wednesday, February 6, 2008, 12:00AM
Some people believe that earning the most money will make them incredibly happy. What they probably don't know is that being incredibly happy may not earn them the most money.

A new study finds that when it comes to financial success, you're better off being a moderately happy person rather than someone who's chronically ecstatic.

Mild Is Beautiful
Researchers at the University of Virginia, the University of Illinois in Urbana-Champaign, and Michigan State analyzed several sets of data in a paper recently published in Perspectives on Psychological Science. Their conclusion: Mildly happy people -- those who rank themselves a 7 or 8 on a life-satisfaction scale of 1 to 10 -- achieve more than the blissful 10s.

Happiest Place on Earth?

Denmark!



CBS) Happiness is that quirky, elusive emotion that the Declaration of Independence maintains we have every right to pursue. And we do pursue it: we are suckers for an endless stream of self-help books that promise a carefree existence for a mere $24.95; and television hucksters of every kind claim they have the key to Nirvana. So the happiness business, at least, is one big smiley face.....

Grump travels the world.

'Grump' travels the planet to find bliss

Article found on CNN

By A. Pawlowski
CNN
(CNN) -- It may take a lot of frequent-flier miles, a penchant for cold places, a tolerance of taxes and regular doses of chocolate, but happiness could be within reach. However, it's not where most people might expect.


Journalist Eric Weiner says he wanted to explore the relationship between place and happiness.


Just ask Eric Weiner, who made it his mission to find the most content places around the globe, uncovering lots of surprises along the way.

Hungering for a tropical paradise? A warm climate doesn't necessarily make a happy nation, Weiner said.

Thinking of moving to a wealthy state? Money can degrade happiness, he found.

Weiner, who wrote the book, "The Geography of Bliss: One Grump's Search for the Happiest Places in the World," began his quest for very personal reasons.

Powerful People Ignore us??

Science News

Powerful, They Ignore New Opinions, Study Finds
ScienceDaily (Feb. 15, 2008) — Don’t bother trying to persuade your boss of a new idea while he’s feeling the power of his position – new research suggests he’s not listening to you.


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Cognitive dissonance
“Powerful people have confidence in what they are thinking. Whether their thoughts are positive or negative toward an idea, that position is going to be hard to change,” said Richard Petty, co-author of a new study* and professor of psychology at Ohio State University.

The best way to get leaders to consider new ideas is to put them in a situation where they don’t feel as powerful, the research suggests.

“If you temporarily make a powerful person feel less powerful, you have a better chance of getting them to pay attention,” said Pablo Briñol, lead author of the study and a social psychologist at the Universidad Autónoma de Madrid in Spain. Briñol is a former postdoctoral fellow at Ohio State.

This research looks at an issue that has been largely ignored by social scientists, Petty said. Many studies have looked at how the power of a person delivering a message impacts those who receive it. But this appears to be the first study that looks at how the power of the message recipient affects persuasion.

In several related studies, the researchers told college students they would be participating in two supposedly separate experiments. In one experiment, the students role-played in a situation in which one was a boss – in other words, had a position of power – and the other was an employee who simply took orders.

In the second experiment, the participants viewed a fake advertisement for a mobile phone. The ad was designed to see if participants were paying attention to the message, so half the participants received ads with particularly weak arguments for buying the phone (for example, touting that it had a broad currency converter), while the others received strong arguments (the phone could be recharged in just 5 minutes). Participants were then asked to rate how favorably they viewed the phone.

When the role-playing exercise was conducted before viewing the phone ad, those who played boss were more likely than those playing employees to rate the phone similarly -- whether they received the strong or the weak arguments.

“The strength of the argument made no difference to those who played the boss – they obviously weren’t paying attention when they felt powerful,” Petty said. “Those who played the employee, who were made to feel powerless, paid a lot more attention to the arguments. They weren’t as confident in their own initial beliefs and weighed the arguments more carefully.”

In a related study, the order of the experiments was essentially reversed. Participants first read the mobile phone ads, and were presented with either the strong or the weak arguments, and wrote down their thoughts while reading it. However, before they actually rated the phones, the same participants took part in the role-playing exercise in which some were the boss and some the employee. Later, they went back and rated the phones.

The results showed that the bosses in the role-playing exercise were now more influenced by the quality of the arguments in the ads.. Those who were low-power employees were not as influenced by the ad quality.

“When power was experienced after the ads had been processed, it gave people confidence in their most recent thoughts, so if they read strong arguments, they rated the phones more favorably. If they read weak arguments, they were much more negative toward the phone,” Petty said.

“Those who were feeling less power weren’t as confident about the validity of their thoughts to the ads, so the strength of the arguments didn’t matter as much.”

What this all means is that it matters when people are feeling powerful – before or after they receive a persuasive message. If the message comes right after their power is made relevant to them, then powerful people will be difficult to persuade because they are confident in their existing opinions. However, if people can be made to feel powerful right after a strong persuasive message, attitude change is more likely because powerful individuals will feel confident in the positive thoughts they generate to the message, Petty said.

For example, if you have strong arguments to get a raise, try not to ask the boss in her office, where she is surrounded by the trappings of power. Bring up the topic in a lunch room or somewhere where there aren’t reminders of who is in charge.

But if you do have to talk in the boss’s office, try to say something that shakes his or her confidence.

“Our research shows that power makes people more confident in their beliefs, but power is only one thing that affects confidence,” Petty said. “Try to bring up something that the boss doesn’t know, something that makes him less certain and that tempers his confidence.”

But once you do make your argument, assuming it is cogent, it is good to remind the boss that he is in charge.

“You want to sow all your arguments when the boss is not thinking of his power, and after you make a good case, then remind your boss of his power. Then he will be more confident in his own evaluation of what you say. As long as you make good arguments, he will be more likely to be persuaded,” Petty said.

Petty said the research casts doubt on the classic assertion that power corrupts people and leads them to negative actions. Instead, what power does is make people more likely to unquestionably believe their own thoughts and act on them, he said.

Both low- and high-power people may have negative thoughts at times, and think about doing something bad. But because high-power people are more confident in their thoughts – and less susceptible to countering views – they are more likely to follow through into action.

“A lot of people may have a momentary thought about doing something bad, but they don’t do it because they can inhibit themselves. A powerful person is more likely to follow through on the negative thoughts,” Petty said.

By the same token, if a powerful person has a positive, pro-social thought, she may be more likely to follow through on that thought and turn it into reality.

“Powerful people are more likely to act on what they are thinking – good or bad – without second guessing themselves,” Petty said.

*The study was published in a recent issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. Other co-authors of the study included Derek Rucker of Northwestern University, Carmen Valle of Universidad San Pablo CEU de Madrid and Alberto Becerra of Universidad Autónoma de Madrid.

Adapted from materials provided by Ohio State University.


APA Ohio State University (2008, February 15). When People Feel Powerful, They Ignore New Opinions, Study Finds. ScienceDaily. Retrieved